There is nothing wrong with healthy competition. In fact, it can be a good thing. I push you, you push me, and we both become better for it. But for some reason, today’s society has become, if I can’t have it, I don’t want you to have it either. And this, my friends, is where competition becomes detrimental.
If you grew playing sports, you probably learned at a young age, there are winners and there are losers. You may have also learned how to deal with coming in second, or even last…how to be a good sport…how to congratulate winners in the face of defeat. So much of being a part of a team as a child, translates to who we are as adults, in our careers and in our lives.
It’s safe to say, I have a Type A personality. If there is a hill, I’m probably going to run up it…just because it’s there. And I want to win in doing so, even if I’m the only one climbing it. I love to set goals, and work hard to accomplish them. I have a constant desire to always improve. That can be a lot of pressure. But living a goal-oriented life, allows me an opportunity to find ways to encourage others to do their very best as well. And in that, I find happiness.
Competition is not bad. It keeps you on your toes. It keeps you always striving for better. But when you find it getting the best of you…
- Don’t compare yourself to others: You are your own person. You are unique to your own experiences and your own level of success.
- Compete with yourself: Are you getting better? Are you making progress? Let that be your competition–with yourself.
- Focus on your end goal: What is it you want to accomplish? Work on reaching that goal. Stay in your lane.
- Stay positive: The old grade school saying: positive thinkers, get positive results…also holds true in our adult lives.
- Keep it fun: If it’s not fun, what’s the point? The minute fun goes away, toxins appear.
So, find the competitive edge within yourself. Use that energy to push forward and to push others. Because guess what…there is enough success to go around!